The more I ‘work out’ the more I crave healthy food, the more I eat healthy food, the more I desire to be active. The more these things are under wraps, the more present and emotionally clear I feel. The more self-empathy and acceptance I have the more healthy choices I make.

When we are feeling down in the dumps, and the dad bod is weighing us down, the more overwhelming it can be to get our physical and mental well-being back on track.

If we start telling ourselves, I need to start eating better this week, do more exercise this week, do more mediation to try to be more present, do more positive things towards happiness, we can end up with a to-do list a mile long that feels impossible.

It can feel even more impossible with the responsibilities of being a dad cutting our time short.


The best thing to get out of a health rut is simply picking the one doable thing you can do before the end of a week.  It doesn’t matter what it is, they are all important.   What matters is that you choose one doable thing that you are 100% committed to.   This will begin the momentum you need to lift you out of the rut.

Trust the easiest choice will enable a pathway for the changes you want.  Be lazy in your choices toward health, don’t pick the hardest health issue to tackle head-on.

Don’t fool yourself that procrastination is being lazy, because it is not.  That’ll create a hard battle against your desires to be physically and mentally well, taking you further away from the lazy man’s path to health.


The lazy man’s way to health starts with the smallest but truthfully aligned and easiest action.

All else will follow.

Once out of the rut, sure give yourself harder challenges.


In my younger days before children, I spent time rock climbing.  I loved the combination of the mental and physical challenge.   One thing I always marvelled at when climbing with much older men was how relaxed and lazy they were on climbs. Although I was grunting and busting myself to try and do the same climbs, and mostly failed at too.  They would laugh and chat while climbing, slowly and effortlessly make their way up a vertical wall. 

You see in their wisdom and embracing a lazy pathway up the cliff face, they were constantly looking for the next and easiest move upward.  They weren’t so fixated on trying to get to the top of the cliff as fast as they could.   They’d move a foot an inch higher to get their bodies in a new position that would make the next move even easier.  I didn’t even see these possibilities because I was focussed on getting to the top before all my energy was drained from my arms and legs, and before I might lose it and come tumbling down … and yes I did.

At the end of the day, my more youthful body would be wrecked and I felt defeated. The older men I climbed with on those days would feel the physical work-out but they would also be putting themselves through near impossible routes and feeling achieved and accomplished at the end of the day.


If your small step feels too hard, break it down more, get lazier.  Like the wise climbers who will move an inch up, or even down to set them up in order to make the next move easier – do that!


There is a much greater chance to create change for better health through doing many easy things, more than taking on massive changes head-on.  Taking on massive changes gives a much higher chance of being defeated and then you’re right back in the rut again.  In achieving small things it enables the motivation to achieve the next.  Remember it is not the size of the achievement but its meaning.


Of course, the lazy way to change can be applied to many areas of life, not just health.